BIBLICAL TEACHINGS ON HOW TO OVERCOME A VICTIMS MENTALITY.
Being a victims mentality isn’t a planned deal by anyone rather it is a struggle but can’t really pinpoint when you do it?
This can be a painful step as it will crush your personality if you thought you always took responsibility for your actions. But it will help you to overcome the habit and will, in the end, glorify God. It is biblical to examine ourselves and asking others will just help us to grow by identifying our pitfalls. God may choose to reveal it privately or through the help of others.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” – Psalm 139:24 KJV
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end” – Proverbs 19:20 KJV
It all starts with prayer. We know that apart from Him we can do nothing, We should honestly pray that God reveals the moments when you are playing the victim. Pray, He reveals your faults in the situation while it’s happening.
Pray for forgiveness in your thinking and for any sinful behaviour you may have done. And also pray for the power to overcome it. We cannot overcome this ourselves. Pray for new thinking. He promises to change us as we submit to Him.
“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:” – Philippians 1:6 KJV
He promises to change us!.
But we must surrender our struggle to God daily in prayer. This is so crucial and so overlooked. We have to evaluate and dissect our thoughts. We have to take our thoughts captive, dissect them, identity the lie and replace it with the truth. God ‘s truth.
If we let our brain run wild it will definitely affect our emotions and behaviour. If we allow ourselves to blame other people and allow ourselves to think thoughts such as “they should have, they never, it’s because, if this wouldn’t have happened, if only, etc” then we will choose sinful behaviour because we are focusing on ourselves. Pray for God to change your heart and mind to think clearly.
In the moment of feeling like a Victim, step back from the situation, ask God to open your eyes, and reflect on what is going on. Think about your role. What role did you play? Admit your sin. Ask for forgiveness as needed and then move forward. What can you do to make it better? Stop reliving what should have been done. What can you do now? Realise you can’t control what others do but you don’t have to be stuck because you are not a Victim!.
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:32 KJV
How can I not forgive when I have been forgiven of so much? And not only am I Called to forgive, but to be kind, to be tenderhearted.
We do not have to be victims. The enemy wants us to blame others because it takes the focus off us and opens the door to sin.
Instead, we are called to examine ourselves and confess our sins, both to God and those we have sinned against.
There is so much joy in living a life humbly admitting your wrongs so we can grow rather than repeating them as usually happens when we blame others.
We are not victims.