Why Do We Need To listen?
In all honesty, human beings are meant to be communicative agents. There are numerous pitfalls that have caused us not to be effective in communication.
This article will explore some of the issues that are detrimental to effective communication in relationship with each other.
We have become a society of people who speak a lot and spend a lot more time being angry, and do not listen anymore. We should bear in mind that human anger doesn’t produce righteousness that God desires.
When we become active listeners engaging with grace and humility, we practice wisdom and self – control. However, if we flip the instructions and ignore the command to listen quickly and choose instead to speak first, the doorway to anger is flung open.
Why do we speak first and listen later; risking misunderstanding, causing hurt and fracturing relationships and being carried off into anger..?
Here are the fundamental reasons we are not listening to each other again.
There are many sources of information: our minds are often overwhelmed with such e.g multiple social media platforms, news stations, and streaming stations etc.
Our phones and computers bombard us with information too. How then can we think with so much information to digest?
The bible records that “Blessed are those who keep his statutes and seek him with all their heart”..( Psalm 119:2)
There are many loud voices in the world today. Celebrities and media personalities clamor to be heard, and sometimes we listen to their views over those of our neighbors, loved ones, and God.
Most times, the influential people we hear and listen to can become those we praise for wise words and insight; and in the process, get idolized, so much that we listen to them over God.
There are so many things that contest for our attention. Children, spouses, careers, church activities, sports, social media, and several other commitments gets us distracted.
The list is still advancing because human wants is insatiable. We are always on the go. When you have the opportunity to listen to someone who needs to be heard, stop and drop the distractions.
Put down the phone, silence the noise, and engage in the moment. Giving someone your full attention and carefully listening is an act of love.
Oftentimes, we judge others based on our own assumptions. It is absolutely wrong to judge someone on your own view.
It is difficult to have an effective communication with someone when our hearts are racing for quick Judgement towards the person. How can you give the person an opportunity to talk in such moments..?
James 2:13 confirms that “because Judgement without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful, Mercy triumphs over Judgement”.
Nowadays, we are living in an era where people prefer to live separate lives. This sounds un-biblical. The bible recommends unity.
The society we find ourselves in have made us believe that “we can be comfortable on our own without anyone ‘s assistance”. This is a major factor in high rate of divorce.
Everyone believes in “I can do without you” syndrome.
Remember that we are all God’s children and forgiven by the sacrifice of Jesus made for us all.
“Finally, all of you , have unity of mind , sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind”…( 1 Peter 3:8).
6) Self – righteousness
Self- righteousness is the feeling of being sinless and worthy. Does it sound great when the bible has already condemned our righteousness?
It destroys our hearing skill towards people who might need our attention and will deter us from seeing the way God sees. It is humility and sacrifice that opens our ears to hear the hearts of our loved ones.
“For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled,and those who humble themselves will be exalted”…( Luke 18 :14)
It is described as the fertile ground for bitterness, anger, and a dull sense of hearing.
Through Jesus, we receive Forgiveness of sins, and we are commanded to offer the same to those who err against us. The seed of poison is planted by Un-forgiveness.
Apostle Paul reminds us, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you”..(Ephesians 4:31)
Forgiveness uproots bitterness and anger and opens our hearts to hear both from others and Our God.
In conclusion, let us know that Listening is an act of love, and we know that Jesus listened to the people He encountered.
The hurting, the broken, the shamed, the blind, the leper, the lame; He listened to them all with an open heart.