Teach A Child As A Parent
One important and helpful truths for a parent to consider is that children are a stewardship. How do I teach a child as a parent? They are gifts given to us from our Heavenly Father, given to us that we might “bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4(b). We have been given the tasked as parent by the God of the universe that we should train our children according to His good commandments.
This reality brings us hope and full understanding that we have a very important and specific task to do, which could also bring fear of insecurity when we appreciate and accept the full weight of our task. The greatest thing we desire for ourselves is that we are giving the privilege to lean heavily into hope and clarity of our understanding, while going completely away from any fear and insecurity. The part of being a parent is no small task. On the other hand, doing it well is fun, stressful and difficult. The question is ‘‘How is a parent supposed to know how to be a parent?
Throughout the Scripture, God was much clear about the responsibility He places in the hands of we parent. The book of Deuteronomy 6:6-7 “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” We have a responsibility as parents to teach our children what matters to God. It doesn’t mean enforcing them with certain set of beliefs or rituals; rather, it means being a real supermodel, demonstrating the true meaning of faith and putting the focus on loving God and loving others. In my view, there’s not a greater purpose we can have in life than reflecting and showcasing God’s image for our children to see.
I hope you would join us on our journey of How do I teach a child as a parent, biblical parenting and we pray that these “helps” are a blessing to you and your family as well.
Design Good Family Habits
The book of Deuteronomy 6:7 gives us a very clear picture of just how needy we need to bring God and His Word into conversations we have with our children. “You shall instruct them [God’s commandments] diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” In order for us to do successfully as a parent, we need to design some very important habits in our home that make God’s Word, God’s promises, and God’s history always present.
Start the day right with the Bible at breakfast. We should read just a few passage out, and then question our kids on what has been read. Way easy to do and it goes a very long way. Have fun with it as a family and try to engage each kid in a unique way, also considering their age.
Make dinner a time to reflect on God’s goodness. We try to ask each other what we’re thankful for that day, be very specific. This has been an important part of teaching our kids that even in difficult times, we can be thankful. We teach them to praise God Even in hard situations and even have opportunities to look at how we can respond better in the future.
Aim to never miss a Bible time. We either begin or end our bedtime routine by reading the Bible together. Similar to our mornings together, we go through a book of the Bible at a time, note, one passage at a time. We go straight through entire books of the Bible that way. We just finished Act and now we’re going through Romans.
Train children in a way that is Godly.
Based on how to teach a child as a parent, we should not forget the part of the bible that says… “Train up a child in the way he should go…” (Proverbs 22:6)
But what is the way each child should go?
Firstly, it’s in a Godly direction. The book of Proverbs points out the foolish and the wisdom of God. God’s way is wisdom. Secondly, this verse seems to take into account the temperament of each child. Parenting is hard. It would be easier if parents could apply the same principles to each child and get the same result. But since each child is different, some adjustments will be made. Proverbs 22:6 is probably the best-known passage on the issue of child rearing. An interpretation suggests that parents have two options to present to their children: the righteous, wise path or the destructive, foolish path.
Send them down the righteous road and they’ll enjoy a long, righteous life. Not exactly sage advice. Nor very useful. Wisdom usually offers insight that is less obvious. Children in a home managed by godly parents will have the opportunity to see God’s way of life in action year after year. When they reach maturity they will then have a better understanding of the consequences or rewards that will come from their choices. Is there anything in Proverbs 22:6 that is a parenting guide? Yes, indeed there is. Even though written of a different culture, it shows that parents should help their maturing teens make their career choices. Parents can have good insight into the strengths and weaknesses of their children, as they pertain to a career.
Remember Who They Are Going to Become
One important piece of advice we should know about child raising is that; “You’re not just raising children, you’re raising adults.” We own our kids. The biblical truth is that our children are on “loan” from the Lord… funny right. But, we’re responsible for stewarding over them, investing diligently into their future, and seeing a full good return. This takes us all the way back to that first point of stewardship which is, They’ll always rely on us.
It feels good to be needed and this can be especially true with our children. We need to prepare them to be adults so that they can be independent. Our greatest efforts being made to teach them the biblical Gospel so that they understand their need to repent and put their faith in Christ alone for salvation.
Train children in the direction of their skills and temperaments.
Our children aren’t carbon copies of we parent. We must train them in the way they should go. As parents, we try to train our child towards the direction of their temperament, but this requires the wisdom and discretion. A child might lean towards self-sufficiency at an early and tender age, but he will still benefit more from learning to work with others if he wants to thrive and survive well in life. Or a child may be very creative, but she will still need to learn the duller and tedious basics of life.
One final cheering… on how to teach a child as a parent is that, the job of “adult raising” is no easy task and we cannot expect to do it well all on our own. However difficult it might be for us to open up with others, we need to fight the temptation of isolating ourselves. Proverbs 18:1 teaches us that “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgement.” So let’s make it a priority to get into a small group or a tight community with other Christian parents and then share with them our experiences and seek wise counsel.