Being a victims mentality isn’t a planned deal by anyone rather it is a struggle but can’t really pinpoint when you do it?
This can be a painful step as victims as it will crush your personality if you thought you always took responsibility for your actions. But it will help you to overcome the habit and will, in the end, glorify God.
It all starts with prayer. We know that apart from Him we can do nothing, We should honestly pray that God reveals the moments when you are playing the victim. Pray, He reveals your faults in the situation while it’s happening.
Pray for forgiveness in your thinking and for any sinful behaviour you may have done.
And also pray for the power to overcome it. We cannot overcome this ourselves. Pray for new thinking. He promises to change us as we submit to Him.